I posted this picture to my DEAR PARENTS Facebook page a few weeks ago with the caption " Dear Parents, Take a look at my shirt. I truly am THANKFUL and GRATEFUL for EVERYTHING in my LIFE. We ALL should be thankful for family, for friends, for a roof over our heads and food on the table. EVERY ONE! I am thankful for the forever family I came to through adoption and as 23-thousand children age out of foster care each year, I am thankful I was adopted. BUT please understand - your child will have their own feelings. We are human beings. Talk to your children- and most importantly- LISTEN. Never make your child feel they should be grateful for their adoption, but that does not mean that as parents you cannot teach general gratitude in life-- that is something all parents should teach- no matter how their child came to them. PS- please ignore the lack of lipstick & the awful hair- rain does that to me!" You can find more on gratitude and your adoptee in my new book that was just released yesterday - but today I want to talk to you about another reason we have to be thankful
Why we should ALL be THANKFUL
As I sat staring at a Birthday Buddies list for foster children yesterday I broke down into big tears. I felt overwhelmed by the enormity of the situation. Oh sure, we see numbers like over 400-thousand children are in foster care right now, or that over 100-thousand of them are actually available this second for a forever family (which means right now they have no family) or that every year 23-thousand children age out of care without a family. Big numbers right? But what feels even more enormous is when you see them each as a person- when you read about the things each of these children enjoy doing, when you see how long they have been in care and when you look into their sweet faces. The one on one is the hardest number of all, but don't look away. These children need you- if you cannot be their family, be their voice. They need you. There is nothing better about me than any of these children, as a matter of fact they seem much more wonderful to me than I am, yet I was adopted and these children are still waiting. These children do not have a family. I should be thankful- you should be thankful- we all should be thankful if we have people who love us, people who care if we took our vitamins or ate all of our lunch. Thankful that someone practiced spelling words with us, cheered us on and we had a place to go home to for Thanksgiving. DO NOT look away. Be a voice, be a home, give a donation, help with a holiday meal for children who have aged out of the system and do not have a family. Be a lifeline,be a face for those children to look into and know they have value-- because they do! These children are in care by no fault of their own and they deserve loving families. They deserve what we have. Should we be thankful? - of course we should. Should we do something for these children? Yes--and today!
I am not just a thankful adoptee...I am a thankful human being. We are all so lucky to have something so many take for granted but these children would do anything to have--- A FAMILY
For more information on things you can do visit
The Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption