My favorite books are the journals I have always written to my children; I began before I ever laid eyes on them but my heart was speaking directly to theirs.
Thoughts, hopes, dreams, tears- they were all poured into the pages of these journals for my children. If you were to read the pages of the first for each child, you would know a piece of my heart and how much all of my heart was already theirs even before I met them. As you read on you would feel the bumps and bruises, the exhales and the bursts of emotion that came along with each of those journeys. Most importantly, what is felt in each page is LOVE.
Dogeared and now filled with other papers and even sticky notes with little thoughts or stories I so badly wanted to include but only had a second, these journals are like a much loved wooby or stuffed animal. I have gone through little periods and big chunks when I have not written anything (I know you parents know what I am talking about when I tell you I had the best of intentions), I have written on birthdays, holidays, adoption days and ANY DAYS. There is no right or wrong way to do it and no pressure to do it all the time.
What "main characters", feelings, stories, experiences could I love more? Could I want to read more than my own children's? And one day I will hand them to each of them with love and probably some big 'ol boo-boo faced tears thinking of all the moments and memories they represent.
Writing in a journal can be very cathartic as you begin your adoption journey. I think that is why Rachel and I put journal pages in our most recent adoption related book, it can also be a part of sharing your child's story with them in a more grown up way, someday. (Remember- there should NEVER be a time your child does not know he or she was adopted-- details should be shared at age appropriate times in age appropriate ways). As an adoptee, I can tell you that whatever ways you use to help tell your child's story, through a book like Tell Me Again About the Night I Was Born or with a photo album or journal- it is important. I have often said that knowing I was adopted was much like having a belly button; it was just always there. There is a strength in knowing one's own story. My children's journals are not all about adoption, as a matter of fact, very little of what is written now has to do with it but every story has to start somewhere and they should always know theirs, just as I do my own.
If you like, check out two other books I put alot of blood, sweat and tears into - the two I penned for all of you! The most recent, the Adoption Devotional was co-authored with Rachel Garlinghouse and so much of my heart and m faith is laid out in those pages.
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