I was scrolling along my Facebook stream this morning when I came across this quote from Michael J Fox. I do not know what context he gave this quote but I doubt very highly it had anything to do with adoption- but you know I immediately thought of you and me and all of our imaginations together. Good heavens can I tell some tales in my head. I should have written the worst case scenario books because every single bad, messy, hurtful scenario has already run through my head. Sometimes it even makes sense to me to think, "What is the WORST thing that could happen?" and accept that in my mind and move on, knowing I have already thought it out and seemingly have a plan. Made sense to me during the adoption process too. Sometimes, even though I have a strong faith, I would dwell and worry and think and rethink. I thought of every single bad thing that could happen. EVERY THING. Not only did none of these things happen- I could not have prevented any of them if they were going to happen and thinking these horrible, terrible, no good, super sad things did nothing to help me along the way. Replaying the worst in your head does not prepare you for it, but it will make you a hot mess. It would not have softened the blow of never bringing one of my children home or being a horrible mother, but I am pretty sure it was responsible for my losing handfuls of hair and for more than a few ugly crying spells. So if you must, look at some of the realities that COULD possibly occur along your adoption journey say to yourself, "Yes, things like that do happen." and move on. Do not waste your time running the worst through your mind. Besides, don't you have homestudy cleaning to do? :) I am thinking of you- and wishing you only BEST CASE SCENERIOS today. xo- madeleine
Author- Madeleine Melcher
Adoptee, mom to 3 blessings of adoption, author, creator of adoption profiles, taxi driver, boo-boo kisser, tutor, lover of books and bedtime snuggles, friend forever and imperfect child of God.
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