There is a problem I see far too often. Some parents feel confused or conflicted or are not sure how to start the conversation but it is one that must be had. THERE MUST NEVER BE A TIME YOUR CHILD DOES NOT KNOW THEY ARE ADOPTED. It does not mean you will LIVE IN IT- it does not mean that you will share the more adult parts of the story at non-age-appropriate times or that you will spruce up the story- it means that he or she will just always know- it will always just be a part of their story. It means there will not be a traumatic memory of when they "found out". It means that they can trust what you tell them because you have ALWAYS told them the truth. I have seen many situations where folks have tried to justify keeping their child's adoption a secret-- I want to make this easy for you-- There IS NOT a situation that justifies keeping a child's adoption from them. NONE. Not ever. The truth and the story is your child's-- share it with them from the start in age appropriate ways and always with honesty. This does not take from your relationship with your child- it will make it stronger.
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