All of the questions the social worker had over her several visits to our home were easy, as they were all about us. Our childhoods, our relationship, our families, what parenting styles we had in mind. In the years since our first adoption I have had the pleasure to meet/know many of these great people who are just like the ones that will ring your door bell one day. Remember-- they are not there to judge you in any way-- but to help you get to the point that you can be seen by prospective birthparents and to further YOUR JOURNEY to the child you long for! As with everything else in this process, be honest and be yourself and you will be just fine!
To see more specifics about the home study process you can visit an overview at https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/f_homstu.cfm#report
and see 2012 state by state home study requirements at https://www.childwelfare.gov/systemwide/laws_policies/statutes/homestudyreqs_adoption.pdf
Since posting this blog, I received a comment this afternoon from a professional connection who conducts home studies and I thought it would be a great thing to share. Below are comments from Mary-Jean Gianquinto , she practices in the NYC metro area, in addition, Long Island, Westchester & Putnam counties.
"I always make contact with the family via telephone once referred. I review the purpose of the home study, my role, and relationship with the PAP during this process. I assure the PAP
that I am here as a support, to answer questions during and after the HS. I also let the family know that I have been conducting home studies for many years, I enjoy my work and meeting families.
I try to be sensitive to the fact that although the family has just begun the process, they have most likely been struggling with infertility, or wanting to create a family, and have been
grappling with the many emotional issues tied into this decision. Adoption is a
true leap of faith, and most families are emotionally spent by the time they are
experiencing the home study process. I am not there to judge, I am there to
assess their strengths, evaluate if support is needed, provide guidance while
I am always in the cleanest, most organized homes, lol. I try to reassure the family that this is not a "Lifetime movie", I do not look under the beds or in the fridge! "